Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving] Amplified Bible
I saw a quote this week from phenomenal African-American poet Ms. Nikki Giovanni commending us to be responsible listeners. Her words line up with the word of God in James 1:19 which tells us to be quick to listen, slow to speak and even slower to get angry.
Unfortunately listening has become a skill that most of us never develop. Being quick to listen and being responsible for doing so is an activity that requires our senses to be fully in gear. We have to be able to interpret what we heard through our ears as well as our eyes. We have to be able to get an understanding by properly interpreting what we heard.
Our getting an understanding is often blocked or colored by the experiences of our soul (mind, emotions, choices—past and present, and sometimes generational)
As an example when my sister Dr. Faye and I became teenagers, my Mother would insist on us going to the bank with her. We would always be struck immediately by the casualness of young white female bank tellers who would address Ma as Sarah. It was as if they were on a first name basis with her and had chosen not to give her the respect due an elder by ‘putting a handle on her name.’
Their casualness infuriated both my sister and I but the mere forming of a response on our lips made Ma quickly give us a chastening look and put a finger to her lips as if to say-Hush your mouth.
I don’t recall any discussions afterwards at home or otherwise.
Those bank visits certainly impacted our souls though.
Years later when I was fully engaged in creating theater works I remember writing a chorus line that read “They call us Auntie, girl and gal when they’re not my kin, niece or pal.”
When my sister later on received her Ph.D she set a standard for the handles she would accept as a doctor of Linguistics in person or via E-mail.
She insisted on being called Dr. Faye and when I came to work for her at One East Palo Alto she made sure that folks called her then newly ordained baby sister, Reverend.
Even now I still shudder when kids I taught years upon years ago refer to me now by my first name rather than the handle that has been bestowed on me—Reverend or Pastor. That kind of casualness always throws me for a loop.
I said all that to say that our listening can indeed be deafened by a mere word or a lack of a word from the mouth of the speaker. Sometimes words can be triggers that can produce flashbacks to another place and time.
In any event the call to be a responsible listener is most timely. We all should check ourselves long before we wreck ourselves—check ourselves before we leap to an inappropriate conclusion.
Time is winding up and we who are grown, really grown must lead the way. We must respond wisely and habitually and invite the Holy Spirit to assist us in properly receiving and interpreting what we hear and how we respond.
As a final note, if you hath not the Holy Spirit in your life I encourage you to get into a relationship with Jesus Christ, the one who died and rose from the grave for your sake and mine. The Holy Spirit comes with the package of making Jesus Lord and Savior of your life.
Amen and amen.
I saw a quote this week from phenomenal African-American poet Ms. Nikki Giovanni commending us to be responsible listeners. Her words line up with the word of God in James 1:19 which tells us to be quick to listen, slow to speak and even slower to get angry.
Unfortunately listening has become a skill that most of us never develop. Being quick to listen and being responsible for doing so is an activity that requires our senses to be fully in gear. We have to be able to interpret what we heard through our ears as well as our eyes. We have to be able to get an understanding by properly interpreting what we heard.
Our getting an understanding is often blocked or colored by the experiences of our soul (mind, emotions, choices—past and present, and sometimes generational)
As an example when my sister Dr. Faye and I became teenagers, my Mother would insist on us going to the bank with her. We would always be struck immediately by the casualness of young white female bank tellers who would address Ma as Sarah. It was as if they were on a first name basis with her and had chosen not to give her the respect due an elder by ‘putting a handle on her name.’
Their casualness infuriated both my sister and I but the mere forming of a response on our lips made Ma quickly give us a chastening look and put a finger to her lips as if to say-Hush your mouth.
I don’t recall any discussions afterwards at home or otherwise.
Those bank visits certainly impacted our souls though.
Years later when I was fully engaged in creating theater works I remember writing a chorus line that read “They call us Auntie, girl and gal when they’re not my kin, niece or pal.”
When my sister later on received her Ph.D she set a standard for the handles she would accept as a doctor of Linguistics in person or via E-mail.
She insisted on being called Dr. Faye and when I came to work for her at One East Palo Alto she made sure that folks called her then newly ordained baby sister, Reverend.
Even now I still shudder when kids I taught years upon years ago refer to me now by my first name rather than the handle that has been bestowed on me—Reverend or Pastor. That kind of casualness always throws me for a loop.
I said all that to say that our listening can indeed be deafened by a mere word or a lack of a word from the mouth of the speaker. Sometimes words can be triggers that can produce flashbacks to another place and time.
In any event the call to be a responsible listener is most timely. We all should check ourselves long before we wreck ourselves—check ourselves before we leap to an inappropriate conclusion.
Time is winding up and we who are grown, really grown must lead the way. We must respond wisely and habitually and invite the Holy Spirit to assist us in properly receiving and interpreting what we hear and how we respond.
As a final note, if you hath not the Holy Spirit in your life I encourage you to get into a relationship with Jesus Christ, the one who died and rose from the grave for your sake and mine. The Holy Spirit comes with the package of making Jesus Lord and Savior of your life.
Amen and amen.
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